of topic?

It seems very much 'of topic'.
Yet, I've got the experience that what keeps 'nagging at me' usually proves to holds relevance for the topic I am 'at' ( which is 'life' in a rather broad sense...so, not much is 'of topic' there....)

For some reason, I felt like visting the blog from Cassady Cayne on twin flames, which I hadn't looked at in a couple of months.
I read with interest this blog post.
What resonated with me a great deal was the ' whatever the cosmic weather forecast.. you can enjoy sailing in it'.

Yet, another layer of her blog post stuck with me as ' not sitting all that well with my understandings of twin flameship and the developments chances it holds for the soul, as my wisdom within is pointing towards to'.
So yes, I feel the drive to put my understanding in words.

The theme revolves around understanding positivity and negativity.
In so many teachings of 'energywork' , the chosen wording easily leads to believing that 'negativity equals bad' and in holding negative thoughts about anything or anybody, especcialy your twin flame, one is blocking 'the good'.

The ' only look at the bright side of life' advice that seems to be given, 'the clear the negative energies and entities form your energy radar' is (seen from my perspective), not what I would recommend anyone to do.
That is....of course, if one's aim is to 'stop using the patterns that have gone over their expiry date and start developing new, better suiting ones'.
(No pattern was ever invented for bad reasons.. if it hadn't worked out very positively of getting what you needed to survive, and label 'very positive' no one would have created it in the first place, let alone follow it to the point of getting it deeply ingrained in daily routines as a 'must have'/'must do')

To me, meeting my twin flame was the most scarily beatiful breathtaking mindblowing magical mystery tour event of my life. It turned my inner and outer world completely upside down and inside out.
Living with the man for 4 years, was a challenge of epic proportions.

Now, it is diffcult to choose my words right here. For, as always, words are among the most lousy and chunky carriers of experiences. So to do this anywhere near energetically alligned with my highest understandings, it's a delicate matter.....

My 'only' result is that I am at peace with life, feeling to be one with life, co-creating life... for 95% of the time... .
I feel that my talents couln't have been developed any further than they currently are, for I have showed up in all the challenges I am being faced with, by giving it consciously the very best 'shot', I am capable of giving at any given time.
I learned, by being willing to keep looking, when faced with 'negativity', to stay 'open' to it and not dismiss it as an unwanted entity in 'life' for the reason of ' being negative.
I am aware that it have been mainly those ' unwanted' resonances, those 'negative' labeled entities who have SHOWED and SHARED abundantly the most and deepest touching and profound WISDOM, freely and happily.
Is it because... almost no-one in this world ( wether calling themselves 'spiritually advanced' or ' scientific expert researcher') are showing much willingness to LISTEN and open their hearts and mind's to receiving the GIFTS the so-called negatives are freely willing to give in order to.... ameliorate (your) life!?

With all due respect (bless them) but the spiritually advanced, the scientific hot-shots and the furthermore know-all 'experts' in whichever field of interest I have come across, as a rule of thumb, don't WANT to (actively choose to) be in touch with anyone or anything they don't recognise at first sight as being positive for their developments, in the way they define 'positive' (usually close to..... that which they already know, like, understand and are completely at ease with).

If I then call that behaviour the names I have been calling it, I would not agree with the idea that I am placing any negative ernegy into anyone's sphere.
I am simply observing that.. if their (joyful) aim is to attain their own highest good, to reach their own highest understandings of life they have energetically set out to want to lovingly connect with ( which most of these people say they do)..... they'd benefit from looking more deeply at what they are dismissing and not recognizing as forms of the so much desired to experience 'love' and 'joy.
For these forms of  'love and joy' ' are welcomed at the gate with not-so-nice-and-easy-feelings ans attitudes; with turmoil, hassle and  judgements. yes, 'shaking the world as a result').

'Negativity' is to me no more than a signal that 'something needs loving open welcoming attention'.
(not 'clearing', not 'being dismissed, before it has had a chnge to convey what it has to say', not.. being surpressed)
The stronger my emotions onto sensing it are, the more it is 'disrupting' my calm and inner peace, the more importance I know this ' message/messenger' holds for me to actually 'open' and receive, to give it my full and undivided attention.
My system, is trying to reach me, helping me in order to stay as true to my own highest values as possible.
Guiding me, to grasp the oppertunities I really enjoy.
Alerting me, that 'in th eunseen to me' things are changing and that if I don't make a new choice here, things will not continue to go smoothly, as I like it to go... I would then not be performing in the best way I know of.

Fluttering sails on a sailingship is not what you 'want', but when you get it, you have got the best indication there is that you've got to alter something, the course, or the settings of the sails, depending.....
Ignoring it, or setting the sails overboard, is hardly ever the best navigational option.

So, if there was a type of belief about negativivity that I would recommend to 'clear' ( replace with another belief), it would be to call negativity ' negative', as in 'bad'.
Which, in spiritual circles sometimes gets more clearly understood, but 'they' swing' quite often too far in the opposite direction.. of relabeling everthing that presents itself ' negatively' as ' good' .. as in....simply don't connect with it either, you can understand up front that it is intrinsically good.

Yeah, well... the effect of missing out on gaining more understanding with life, by having the (openly connected) encounters with life.. is the very same!
You'd  still be living in a 'polarised' world of ' good/bad' applying routines that have gone way over their expiry date ( if making your own mind up, being your SELF adn feeling in the power of having choice at matters, is what you are aiming for, of course.)

I often use the postman analogy.

He goes though a lot of trouble ( rain, hailstorms, wind) to deliver a message at your door.
If you see this wet, dripping, bearded creature suddenly appear in your world, you may want to dive behind your sofa and ' sit this one out'.
But, he needs a signatur for delivering a letter, he keeps ringing your door, knocking on your window even.. your car is on the drive, the lights are on.. he knows you are in there somewhere.

Why not calmly open the door, accept the letter, sign it and.. offer the man a warm drink and a 'thank you' for going though all the trouble?
Yes, some water will drip on your doormat, it wil take a couple of minutes from your time, attention and energy.
(You dripping fear sweat on your karpet for more minutes, for labeling this scary, disrupting occurance 'negative' ... doesnlt strike me as an effective time/dry floor saver...)

Welcoming the postman ( rain or shine, having checked the signs for him being an actiual postman, with good intentions...) signing forreceiving the message, giving the man a drink, having a chat... is all very 'positive'.
But then tossing any envelop unopened and unread in the paperbin for it's occurance is labeled ' all good' and the interaction 'closed'... is likely to fire back at you at some point in time.
For you are not 'getting' the information that was so relevant for you to receive, that someone in your network felt it necessary to bring it to your attention..wether inwardly or outwardly.

Which probably leads me also to the widely expressed notion in spiritual circles that the only source of information that is relevant, comes from within.
I can go with that for those people who are able to really distinguesh within themselves which source within they are tapping into.
The database of 'your own beliefsystem' doesn''t qualify to my informationspecialsts eye , as a source of information one can solely rely on.
Although it is experienced to be within and filled to the brim with your own gathered wisdom...  I observe that in most people it contains way too many 'old' routines that are bases on outdated information, experiences from the past in other circumstances that cannot rightfully be extropolated to be still equally as valid in these new circumstances.

As long as you are 'calm' with it... it is probably serving you well.
But if, time after time, 'the postman rings' with urgent telegrams at unusuall times of day and you feel deeply disturbed and unhappy with things.....
Please.. consider to look into other sources of information to.
Also 'outwardly'.. especcially from the people who care for you and your wellbeing, those who are conencted with your every day life with you in it.

You will probably not 'like' what they indicate about the curent situation ( you are likley to label those encounters ' negatively charged' and will feel very striongly about it).
Not receiving the actual content ( and intent) of their message, is shooting yourself big style in the foot.

(If.. again... being the best version of yourself, navigating on up to date information, sailing happily and confidently through life, rain or shine, storm or calm.. is your aim).